Naive? Or Too Nice?

So a few things have been getting the wheels in my head turning recently.

So let's say...you have a huge crush on someone, and then..when you finally tell that person, they come up with a reason they don't want to be in dating relationship with you, but yet, they carry on. They carry on in the playful, flirty ways they have been since the start; making you fall even farther and harder. And you're in a whirlwind..your head is in the clouds, your feet...floating above the ground.

I'm all for happiness. I'm all for love. Trust me on this, I'm one of the biggest hopeless romantics, ever.
But I have a good dose of cynicalism and logical in my blood as well.
The romanticness is for my relationship.
The logical, is for both.

I can understand why these two would continue to carry on, because they're making each other happy..without any commitments.

Now, seeing as you're not in a relationship with this person..they have the space to go and be with others, and not feel any remorse..because there are no strings that really tie you two together. And I'm not saying the other person is heartless, I'm just saying, they have the free will to do as they please. And if they really cared, they wouldn't do that to you, yes. But what if they're just having this...let's call it mini-relationship, where you two act as a couple, but are not...what if they're carrying that on, for the moment..because it's a quick fix...and there's no real work/effort behind it? It's as if, they're saying they're interested in you, but don't want the work that could/does come with an actual relationship.

I'm not against those people, who chose to be like that..because at the end of the day, it's your life you have to live, not mine. But are you being naive..thinking that maybe..if you give them time, they'll come around, and be with you? Or is more of an issue of being too nice? In the end, you're being a bit of both..simply because you're falling for them..and it seems as if they almost don't respect you, on a level they really should. Because you're giving them the power to destroy you, and they could be playing you just like a game...I'm not saying anyone is playin' anyone, and I'm not trying to make you guys paranoid..but if you're in one of these mini-relationships...ask yourself.
Do you honestly think they'll change their minds?
Is it right of them to be like "Oh, well, I don't wanna date you." then play around as if you're a couple? Is that not a bit hurtful to you?
Are you being truthful to yourself? I mean, is this really what you want? The constant wonder if it'll turn around..must be rather daunting.
How long do you let this carry on for? How much time do you give them...before you walk, because you're tired of nothing changing?

I'm thankful I'm in a secure relationship. And super super happy, for that matter :>
And I know that this happiness, is here to stay. Even if we have to over come stuff, we will..because if you're meant to be together, you'll always find a way to be together. And Overcoming things, makes you two stronger, together.
These bonds shall never be broken <3

But anyways.
Yes.
Even if my friends get all tangled up in one of those mini-relationships..I shall be here..to help them out.
No matter what.
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